There comes a time where you wonder if the drama will ever end. When you have to BM’s in your life that is a fairy tale that never comes true. Over the last year seems both Bm’s have decided to lie more than ever thought they were capable of. And this time gone to far. My husband has custody of his oldest child. The bm in this case has been MIA for quite some time. She does good showing up usually after she drags him into court and then as time goes by shows up less and less for her visits. And if she ever held a job for a full year seriously I would be beyond impressed. Now he had 50/50 with his ex wife mother of his other 3 until she went to the great lengths to say he threatened her. Which on all accounts if he was the man he was when married to her I would say YES he did, but considering that hes not that man anymore and there were people around the night she claims these threats came through I can tell you on my late fathers grave he did NOT threaten this woman. But like many high conflict and mentally unstable women she got her wish. Now for almost 2 yrs this whole ordeal has been in court due to claims he violated a RO. Each time we thought we would see the end there was in all good family court fashion a continuance. And again just this June 1st 2016 again another push even further to finally ending this. But nope it gets better this woman on that same day files for an extension with claims my husband still threatens her and then goes so far that even those who we have talked to can not believe she has crossed that invisible line between insanity and sanity. She now is making claims that the child my husband has custody of a 9 yr old girl molested her younger sister and since the age of 4. Im perplexed here because one would think if this was the case the therapist (her claims apparently came out while her child was in therapy) should have made a report. Matter of fact its the therapist duty here in the state of IL. I know because with my job of In Home Care I too have to report any abuse of any kind if I see it. Or risk losing all my credits and certifications. Yet there has been no mention what so ever in 2 yrs of back to back court dates, nothing mentioned from the therapist in the 5 yrs since the younger sister was 4. Both girls are currently age nine being they are only about 7 months apart with different mothers. No DCFS (Department of Children and Family Services) at my door, calls on my phone or his. And people around my town can tell you DCFS will be at your door quick when even physical abuse like spanking is reported. Now to make this claim even harder to swallow is that just this December around Christmas the oldest was taken to the ex step mom/ex wifes house to deliver gifts to the three siblings. No mention there either. As well as earlier in 2015 around March-April the oldest bm actually took her child against the fathers wishes to the ex step mom/ ex wifes to repeatedly meet. Pictures were posted on Facebook with comments about how they kids were over joyed at seeing each other. Even one about how the oldest remembered the home she lived in. Now suddenly those comments are deleted. You tell me does it sound like truth to you?
Just A Step Parent? 